Monthly Archives: August 2012

Family Delicacies

Given my fulltime work schedule, each semester I create a weekly system of visits: I see my dad two evenings a week after he returns home from Golden Age and my mom every Saturday and Sunday for lunch.  One night … Continue reading

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What I Learned on “Animal Planet”

One day at lunch time, it occurs to me that I might be praying for the wrong thing for Delores-Number-One, who is now simply Delores since Number Two died.  I listen to Delores ask over and over, “Can I go to my … Continue reading

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. . . A Beautiful Day for a Neighbor

I think of this new Delores as “Delores II,” though the staff call the two Delores-es (Delori in the plural?) “Delores B.” and “Delores L.”—a designation similar to what they would have experienced if they’d been in the same grade … Continue reading

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It’s a Beautiful Day in this Neighborhood / Year Nine

2011 The newest Golden Age resident, another Delores, was my mom and dad’s first neighbor in 1948.  Mom moved to Chippewa Falls to join Dad after they married, and they settled into a one-bedroom apartment in an old house divided into … Continue reading

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Take Her Home /Year Nine

2011 One Saturday as Sandy walks around the TV room, I notice she is especially dressed up: frilly blouse and pressed slacks.  A woman comes through the front door and I recognize her immediately as some kin of Sandy’s.  I … Continue reading

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Don’t Get Old / Year Nine

2011 The residents are here because it’s the end of the line for them.  Still, I’m surprised when Stephanie is taken to the hospital by ambulance  in mid-October and dies a few days later. “Better to die than linger,” I … Continue reading

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Jack Kevorkian Home / Year Nine

2011 We brought my mother to Golden Age to die, but she is thriving. After three months here she is eating and sometimes able to talk. We have fallen into a pattern of visiting her at lunch or supper time. … Continue reading

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