Monthly Archives: September 2012

A Condo Overlooking Leinenkugel’s

The morning after my mom dies, Geralynn and I plan to meet at Dad’s and take him to the funeral home.  He calls me at 9:30 am.  “Bring a pair of underwear for your ma,” he says.  “I can’t find … Continue reading

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Prayer for the Departed

I wrote my mom’s obituary over a year ago when she first went to Golden Age.  We suspected she was going there to die, but she lasted another fourteen months. Four days before she died, I gave a printed copy of … Continue reading

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Last Day

I sit with Mom on Thursday after work.  She’s sleeping so deeply that even when I put a wet sponge in her open mouth to moisten it, she doesn’t stir.  I wash her face with a warm wash cloth and … Continue reading

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Photo Op

Hospice has provided a hospital bed for my mom to keep her head elevated and more comfortable.  The nurse tells my dad that they will leave Mom in bed from now on and turn her every two hours to keep … Continue reading

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The Original Facebook

When I visit Mom at Golden Age today she sleeps the whole time, even when a CNA moves her from a recliner to her bed down the hall.  Like a sleeping baby carried from car to house, she never even … Continue reading

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Hook Line and Sinker

I look through my CD’s for any “oldies” to bring to my mom’s room.  Anything that would soothe her or at least fill the silence when no one is here with her.  Today I play Cole Porter.    Night and day, you … Continue reading

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More Life

We’re honoring Mom’s wish not to be kept alive by artificial means, but none of us knew back then to ask whether she wanted to be fed in this near-vegetative state.  When I visit, I can’t help but spoon feed … Continue reading

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